A year on from the very high profile death of Robin Williams do folks get that depression isn’t sadness yet?
Do they get that it doesn’t happen because you broke up with the boyfriend and feel like an evening crying over rom coms and eating ice-cream?
Do they get that it is a period of such numbness, self loathing and hatred that if people could read your mind they would have you committed?
Do they get that for the depressed it’s almost a tangible pain that you can feel and yet you can’t grab it and put it in the bin?
Do they get that it’s not selfish… It’s depression?
Do they get that it can affect you whether you are on TV, have lots of money, lots of friends, a nice home or you are broke and homeless?
Do they get that telling jokes won’t get rid of it?
Do they get yet that when you say ‘Just leave me alone for a bit,’ depressed folks mean it?
Do they get it that not everybody who has depression behaves exactly the same as everyone else?
Do they get that saying ‘I don’t understand why he / she did it. They looked fine yesterday,’ is meaningless. It’s not about how you look. Most depressives are fine actors.
Do they get that just because in the 1950’s folks just ‘rolled up their sleeves and got on with it’ doesn’t mean depression did not exist and people did not suffer undiagnosed and in silence?
Do those same folks get that whilst it’s their prerogative, it’s quite ignorant to comment on something they do not understand and have never experienced? And that they might equally consider commenting sagely about what it is like to live on Jupiter?
Do doctors get that when you are being treated for depression, sometimes you are going to miss sessions because…and I’ll say this slowly, well, um…YOU…HAVE…DEPRESSION?
Do people get that it can be triggered by something serious, something irrelevant or absolutely nothing at all?
Do they get that the brain / mind is just another organ and that even if you can’t see it it can still malfunction just like an arm, or tonsils and need treatment? In fact why do we accept that a hidden organ like the heart can malfunction but people still get antsy and weird if the brain does?
Do partners, relatives and friends with a depressive in their midst get that it’s not about them, it’s not against them and they should stop adding their own attention seeking drama to the mix yet?
Do governments intend to keep sending mental illness patients to the back of the queue, shoving pills down their throats as a cure-all remedy and pretending by and large that they don’t exist?
One year on, what has been YOUR experience? Anything changed?