Men V Women Chapter 9000!

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I have seen the evidence of this type of through thick and thin friendship amongst males. Okay my anecdotal proof wouldn’t stand up in court but this homey brotherly-ness is something I rarely see in women…in spite of the #MeToo movement. There, I said it! And let’s face it, the #MeToo movement would hardly have been necessary had women had each others backs in the first place!

An example was a news story I read about a man beating up his wife for no good reason. He had pounded her face into a red/black mush. The man found great support in the news story comments from men who were inventing reasons on the go as to why it was reasonable for the beating to occur because some way, some how, she must have provoked him.

In this case it actually was not her fault. Not that anything justifies a beating, but she had received her black and purple eyes on mere suspicions derived from all the jealous craziness dreamt up by her whacko attacker.

Apart from a few lone sane men on the comments, most were backing the pyscho. This is a beefier bro code version of the piece at the top i.e we will back our bruh through thick and thin, right or wrong.

What Say You?

Am I wrong? Have you examples of women backing other women to the hilt…right or wrong? In fact especially when they know it’s wrong to back them, just to keep up the sister code?

Is there even a sister code? I’ve heard of the girl code but I’ve never seen it in action. Is it basically a myth?!

 

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48 thoughts on “Men V Women Chapter 9000!

  1. I think everyone, men and women, are sometimes guilty of telling people what they want to hear whether they agree with them or not and social media often provokes the kind of mob mentality that doesn’t really exist in the real world. Really thought provoking post :O)

  2. I don’t think you are wrong I would like to think that recent events may change this but I can’t see it happening I mean have you seen those Japanese videos of women stripping women naked who are said to be having affairs with husbands? A whole bunch of women turn up and attack the woman but do nothing to the man. Its the man that owes the woman an explanation or faithfulness. That is what we are comtending with so as I say I think you are right.

  3. I’m not sure what I think if I’m honest. I have some great friends of both sexes and I feel that in any given situation they would support me where needed. i know that is just my experience but hey. Plus I think many women identified with Sex and The City because of the close relationship they all had and you can definitely imagine any one of them telling a white lie for their friend.

    1. Women would defo get somewhere if we all had friendships like the Sex And The City women and also extended it out to other women not just our crew.

  4. I do have examples of women supporting each other. My sister took in her neighbour who was being repeatedly beaten by her husband and helped her a lot in getting away from him. I thin that women do support each other but I agree that it should happen more often.

    1. Yeah to be honest *whisper* I remembered a few of these exact same examples after I had written the post, including a woman who received life changing injuries from being doused with acid for helping her friend escape a wife beater.
      But perhaps what would also be good is if the examples didn’t have to be extreme and were normalised everyday occurencies.

  5. I don’t know. I don’t have enough evidence either way. People say women are more bitchy but men can be really bitchy and it just gets called something else. I need more evidence I think.

  6. I have my girl gang and I’d tell a few white lies for them so I don’t know if I agree with you The Ed. It’s crazy that men would be making excuses for a wife beater. Sad state of affairs.

  7. I don’t know. I don’t think I have evidence for either. I think what it is, is that ‘good’ people are more inclined to say nothing (it’s not my business) and ‘bad’ people (think the disgusting men you described) are more likely to defend actions that they think are legit (that’s how I treat my woman so it must right).

    I have a good friend (a very good friend) whose husband was being emotionally abusive and physically and sexually threatening. When she explained the situation to myself and our other good friends we were hesitant in our reaction. We said things like, ‘you have to do what’s best for you and your daughter’ and ‘I wouldn’t put up with that, but you have to make the right choices for you’. We didn’t approve of his behaviour, but we were cautious about saying the wrong thing – misreading the situation and causing offence.

    I think, for both genders, it’s a case of ‘I kept silent, and then when they came for me there was no one to speak out’.

    Writing this has made me realise how weak I can be some times. 😦

    1. Interesting point about the ‘good’ people.

      The problem is we tip toe around each other too much because we consider causing offense a worse crime than stopping a potential beating or worse, which of course is nuts.

      Part of that is because many abused women DO get angry with people who are trying to look out for them for a myriad of reasons. Fear of more beatings if it gets out they were talking about the beater, they don’t want to admit to themselves that they are failing, Stockholm Syndrome…lots of reasons and they can become quite nasty – even violent – to those who try to help them rather than reserve that reaction for their beater, so people don’t quite know how to approach things. Not your fault.

      It’s back to our convo about the truth, for me I’d say what I think or don’t ask me.

  8. True that.. i dont think it exists.. women are perhaps womens biggest problem.. in india we have so many problems for example relationship between a mother in law and her daughter in law.. or if tye son is a psycho types the ladies in the house will akways take his side too against the daughter in law..

    In my experience so far i have not seen this camaraderie between women…sad though…

    1. Right? What the hell is that with women siding with psycho men? This isn’t just in the Indian culture either of course. Is the brainwashing THAT strong?!

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