I once had a ‘pal’ who would sabotage opportunities whilst telling me how much they wanted my success.
What they were saying with their mouth did not match the chaos and distraction they would create every time I needed to concentrate on something that would push me further up the ladder and perhaps further away from them.
How ‘Bout Choo?
Got any of your own personal examples of the image above?
If this happened to you what would you do about it?
Let me know below and we’ll sob silently together across the blogosphere…
THE EDITOR'S JOURNAL 
Everyone must have atleast one experience of a fake friend! It’s like a universally accepted law right now 😂
Tell me about it! Why can’t people just be cool like me! Lol! 😀
😂yeah. The world ain’t perfect!
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Lol I made a comment but can’t find it now. I’ve had something along those lines & seeing odd behaviour with few I never expected. Quite annoying actually. Nothing shocks me no more
Thanks Angie. Me too. Not a lot surprises me these days.
Sorry clicked send by mistake. Promoted for free, the other I attended her birthday and we laughed a lot. So unawares as to their sudden attitude quite annoying actually.
It’s more a small few I expected a favour that doesn’t cost, they got an attitude about. One I helped promote back in the day
If this happened to me, I’d continue being friends with them, it would just motivate me further to surpass him 😉
I know that stealth thing works too – using them as the motivation and keeping them at arms length so their fake smiles can fire you up regularly!
Exactly, one of the best motivators out there in my opinion
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Btw, could you take a peek at my posts? I want to know what you like and what needs improvement etc. I’d really appreciate it.
Apologies for the delay, you appear to have gotten lost in the comments! Firstly, although your template was a bit slow to open up I loved the first impression I had of your site, I only had a quick look. Very appealing! And I honestly can’t say that about a lot of sites I visit. My suggestion is you turn up for a Blog Surgery where I have set aside more time to help folks in this manner. Details are on the top post at The Editors Journal, but yes, good stuff so far!
Madam Ed, sometimes the worst offenders are family members! My mom’s family inherited a huge portion of real estate in northern Philippines and oh boy the fights that came out of this were like out of a movie. Pretty incredible how money and jealousy could influence people to become so evil. My mom has a business and her relatives are making her life a living hell just so she won’t succeed. But the joke’s on them because she is very successful 😜
I never mix money, family and friends. It’s like mixing chemicals to make a hydrogen bomb! 🙂
There are plenty of cases when you feel compelled to say: “Don’t help!”
Now another way to look at that is to acknowledge that even paranoids have ennemies….
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WHY ARE YOU SAYING THAT!!!? What have you got on me!!!! 😯
Hehe! My point entirely. (Don’t you worry. Only a few files. Just need to decode them from Cyrillic and we’ll talk)
Well this certainly appears to be the moment for people’s pasts coming back to haunt them…eeek!
I’m trying to get files on the Orange man, but nothing so far… Tsss.
Check out places where they sell candy floss (cotton candy) as hair you may get lucky and not many places do it.
That’s our only lead right? (Jack Bauer in 24)
Places where Eastern European women gather?
Preferably nubile and in dire need of a visa?
I believe sir we are on what is popularly known as ‘the same page.’ 😀
Good. And since paper metaphors are trendy: keep me posted. (Always makes me feel like a stamped letter)
Nothing…. I have nothing in the tank re a paper metaphor comeback. Indeed could you COME BACK next week – I may have something?
Shall I set an appointment milady?
No appointment needed for you Sir Guglu.
Shukriya ma’amji. 🙂
Aapaka svaagat hai…BAM!! Google making me look intelligent and worldly.
Wonders of technology. Holding a conversation in Hindustani. 😉
He he! 😉
This is the reason why I only choose to have a handful of friends. It’s not uncommon though, my sisters and some people I know have “friends” like these… I guess I just have to thank my lucky stars I’m good for now. 🙂
I agree Manny, knowing the difference between true friends and acquaintances helps!
Totally agree!!
Yep, I had a friend that routinely tried to hold me back. The bad thing was that he denied it, or chose to pretend that he didn’t see it. It was part of his personality. I just learned not to give him the opportunity.
Yeah, mine too! But of course few are going to admit it unless you catch them in an impassioned outburst and it all comes out as mine did!
You are right too Freds that it’s up to us not to allow in-roads to these people.
I’m in the fortunate situation of not being aware of anyone knowingly doing that to me.
That is just nasty behaviour. Why are people mean when being nice can be so much more fun and enjoyable.
Right? But there must be a million reasons I guess including up bringing, self worth, sometimes not even being aware of your actions and the fact that some people are just horrible.
Something similar happened to me, described part of it in my latest post from today. https://jckentsite.wordpress.com/2017/10/08/head-buffalo-or-flock-of-geese/
Your link does not connect to anything.
It’s difficult isn’t it. You want to believe the best of people, especially a friend, but time and again their actions suggest that they’re not really a good friend. I have had friends like that and I hate confrontation so I took the cowards way out and just spent less and less time with them until they moved on to someone else. I know, I’m a coward.
Lol sometimes it’s the best idea though!
I don’t think withdrawing makes you a coward. Sometimes its best to quietly get such people out of your life. You don’t need the extra stress of confrontation… Such persons will end up playing the misunderstood victim part.
Hear hear.