9 Things

1. It’s not about how much you know, it’s who you know. 2. Don’t work hard. Work intelligently. 3. 70% of the stuff you are being taught at school will be meaningless. 4. Learn a timeless skill. 5. Trust yourself. 6. There are multiple entrances to anywhere. 7. Don’t follow. 8. There is no such thing as ‘the truth.’ 9. Don’t listen to people. They talk a lot of shite.


What are yours? What have the years taught you? Hit the comments!

46 thoughts on “9 Things

  1. IN my years of life I have laern not to trust anyone but myself in a every thing I do Not friend or family but myself

  2. Loved this post and all of the comments! Many brought smiles and head nods meaning there is not much I can add except for these:
    1. Never say never especially if you have never been in a situation yourself as it may come back to haunt you
    2. You will not see life the same after you have a child
    3. If someone says the stove is hot, believe then or break out your oven mitts sooner rather than later
    4. Be wary of people with verbal diarhea
    5. You cannot plant potatoes and reap tomatoes
    6. Do not judge others when you do not know their story
    7. And for real, if it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck it is probably not a peacock … just saying.

    1. Ha ha! I learnt no.1 pretty early – why be closed minded to anything? What on earth does that achieve?
      No.4 amen to that. Many a lie is hidden under all the bluster.
      Lol at 5. It’s weird how we do that and act surprised.
      No.6 …I try!
      no.7 Quack! πŸ™‚

  3. 1) not to party too much
    2) not to drink too much
    3) not to have sex too much

    just kidding….

    -I wish I knew that life will eventually suck as an old person and by the time you realize it, you’re too old to do the things you should’ve done while you were still young! Other words, when you reach a certain age, second chances become elusive

    -I wish I knew that motherhood is great, but having your own identity is much better.

    -I wish someone told me that being a nomad is actually not a bad lifestyle.

    I could think of a hundred more but let’s start with this three.

    1. Wow those are deep! Are you entirely sure about no.1 or is that really just your perception? I say this because I could find you 100 young people fairly quickly who will tell you how they also feel that they don’t really have opportunities – whilst living in the west… a smorgasbord of opportunity in my opinion, if one’s eyes are primed to see them.

      The motherhood one …deep. I may do something on this.

  4. I was re-reading some of Jane Roberts’ Seth material the other day. Seth is all about “you create your own reality”, and also says something along the lines that your thoughts rearrange your feelings by association.
    This made me want to add another point to the collected wisdom of all the old-timers here:

    Choose you habitual thinking with care!

    Not only is a habitual thought a brainwash, but thinking the same un-constructive thought again and again is also a neglect of an opportunity to make a brighter spot in the mind.

    1. Amen to that! Completely! πŸ™‚ It’s so easy to slip into negative repetitious thoughts, but there are things one can do to re-train the brain not to do this and as you said ‘create you own reality’ or destiny. Check your friends, check your online and offline reading choices or doing things like NLP which can help to reconfigure the way one’s brain works.

  5. From my 65-year-old, kick ass perspective, I can say that all of these things are true ONLY some of the time. There is no hard and fast answer to living fully and loving well that applies across the board.
    1. Yes, sometimes it is who you know and other times it’s how well you know your craft and are able to demonstrate that.
    2. Work hard and just go for it… the intelligence will reveal itself after you’ve failed spectacularly enough to learn what working intelligently means.
    3. Never under estimate the power and privilege of education.
    4. Being a good listener is a life-long skill that will teach you discernment, compassion and hone your bullshit detector.
    5. Yep. Agree with this one whole-heartedly. Your truth and your answers don’t lie in someone else.
    6. Make sure that the place you are desperate to get into is really where you want to go.
    7. Follow when it’s appropriate. Be a humble student and show respect to those who can teach you what you want to learn.
    8. Truth is the light that guides you. Be brave and stand in the light or your truth.
    9. People are sometimes full of shite and sometimes they have a lot to teach you. Refer to #4. β€œCultivate listening skills.”

    And here is my number #10. Say thank you as many times a day as you can remember. Thank you to the universe for the awesome gift of life; Thank you to the people around you who make your life a little bit better for their presence; Thank you to your partner who puts up with you and Thank you to your fellow writers and readers, who like you, are doing their best to figure it out. Gratitude is how we cultivate joy.

    Thank you for a very thought provoking post!

    1. Ha ha! as I said to someone else I did want to draw out others interpretations of my purposely brief assertions and you have done just that in excellent form.

      You are right about the thank yous too. It is a reflex for me, but actually towards my mam for example I bet I don’t say it enough. And of course if you can find things to be grateful for it occupies the space where you might be tempted to whinge and moan, (which seems to be a national and international pastime these days – even with good reason). Thank YOU for that! πŸ™‚

  6. Hi. Liked your post on 9 things. The one or two that has hit home πŸ™‚ is that there are multiple entrances to anywhere. Donna Karan once was quoted as saying ” Every problem has a creative solution…”. The other one that I found interesting is There is no such thing as the “truth.” I believe that Truth is truth but the challenge is that most folks aren’t interested in the Truth because then it disrupts their own vision. And that is the vision of “whatever” that protects them in the universe universe and therefore reflectts the emotional lifestyle that they have created and therefore consciously or subconsciously default too in order to deal. Kind of heavy for a Weds. morning but nonetheless it’s how I see it. So in easier reading terms, In my opinion, folks for the most part simply don’t want the truth, but want the “truth” according to them. And I also believeLol that that last statement is a universal truth! Have an awesome day!

    1. Ha ha! Yes that’s exactly what I meant, that everyone’s truth is slanted by their individual experiences, upbringing, belief systems etc

      But as melisdvash pointed out, the sun setting in the east is a truth. But how many of even these accepted truths have scientists then refuted at some point?
      Someone could pop up and say that actually the east isn’t strictly the east or that actually the sun does not in fact set at all in the way we always thought it does.
      Ha ha! You could drive yourself quite mad questioning everything you are told. πŸ™‚

      You have a great day too!

  7. It’s been a log time since I was 20 or even 30 so I have a somewhat different take on things:

    1. It’s both. Knowing people who can help you won’t help if you are totally ignorant.
    2. Work hard, if for no other reason than others can see the effort; work intelligently so the effort isn’t wasted.
    3. You don’t know which of the 70% will be meaningless so at least pay attention so you are aware of it all.
    4. And then be prepared to lose that skill and learn others (I can neither type nor knit anymore).
    5. I totally go with this one: trust yourself regardless of others and what they say.
    6. There are places with only one entrance, no entrances and places with no exits – be aware, flexible, and keep your eyes open.
    7. Follow those who’ve already been there and done that. THEN strike out on your own.
    8. There is truth – the sun doesn’t set in the east. This is not the same as YOUR truth, which is as unique as you are.
    9. Listen to people (even those who talk a lot of shite); make up your own mind.

    Wisdom and I hope 30 isn’t the new twenty. I was a lot smarter when I was in my teens, just misdirected.

    1. Like it. A lot. I like the expansion on what I said, which I kept brief for the aesthetic and to illicit just what you did.
      What kind of places would you say have only one exit? Or indeed no entrance? (And by places I mean situations of course.)

      1. Places that have no exit include but are not limited to pregnancy, dead end streets, incurable illnesses; places that have no entrance again without limits: one-way streets (the wrong way, obviously), marriage with someone underage, Iran if you are Israeli… all you need is to look things from different angles

    1. It’s one of those things I always think when I see young teens trying fast to be adults with adult problems before living and wilding it…kids, bills, tax, marriage, never understood it. Keep it.

  8. Hi Madam E, what have the years taught me…..πŸ€”

    That shit things happen to everyone not only me.
    Happiness Can’t be taught or learned
    Fashion is a joke.
    People are largely crowd pleasers.
    Egos rule the world.
    A smile can dry a river of tears.
    Love kills the demons
    A hug from a child can mend a broken heart.
    When you’re unsure, be quiet.
    Never give advice when on a manic, or pissed./or make a decision.
    It’s often much happier and healthier to not give a fuck.
    Politicians are all assholes, and no, they don’t give a shit about you or anyone else.
    Tea, biscuits and bed is a massive mood enhancer.
    Fall in love with yourself, you’re a miracle.

    Ok won’t continue, think I’ve lived too long lol…..could write the page!

      1. Aah thanks angel heart…you know I could hit the real crappy ones, but I thought I’d try be ‘kind’…LOL. x x

  9. 1. Your first love will probably not be your last love.
    2. You know what’s best for you. Really, you do.
    3. Friends may not be in your life forever and that’s OK.
    4. There’s no such thing as luck, only hard work.
    5. Mother doesn’t always know best.
    6. It’s worth making the hard decisions.
    7. You may never use algebra or quadratic equations again but knowing about it makes you a more rounded person (and that goes for Chemistry, English Lit. and Indonesian).
    8. You choose whether you’re happy or not.
    9. People can’t help you if you don’t ask.

  10. 5 things I wish someone had told me before I turned 70 just because I clearly haven’t been clever enough to figure them out for myself:

    1. Timing is everything.
    2. 2 + 2 may equal 4, but no one in the financial industry cares.
    3. Politics and religion aren’t really taboo topics – we should talk more about them.
    4. Sex and marriage don’t necessarily go together.
    5. Timing is everything.

  11. The timeless skill I learned in Business School:
    Oral expression. Yes there was a discipline called so (plus law, accounting, marketing, etcing…)
    How to speak in public.
    This was the most useful skill I was ever taught.

      1. As usual, it is a matter of training. And then I have given so many presentations, and conferences at congresses, I have to admit I love it. πŸ™‚

      2. Thank you Cassandra. Though to be honest, training and training is the key to anything. In my second or third job, we were trained by a theatre director. The man knew his stuff. Have a lovely week-end. Enjoy the English sun while it lasts… πŸ˜‰

  12. 1. Observe people before taking their advice.
    2. Be yourself.
    3. The one who talks the most does not necessarily know the most.
    4. Be willing to learn from everyone you meet and every experience you have.
    5. There are worse things than embarrassment.
    6. Believe in yourself.
    7. Listen twice as much as you speak.
    8. Never assume anything.
    9. There’s no such thing as a stupid question.

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