‘Kay folks! Everybody be talking ’bout it! And I’m interested in this event from a number of perspectives.
But lets recap for any of you who are not aware. Solange, sister of singer Beyonce, was filmed b*tch slapping, kung fu kicking and yelling at her brother in law Jay Z in an elevator…or at least trying to! Following which a kindly hotel worker sold the gold dust footage to gossip blog TMZ.
Okay. You with me so far?
Now the thing I want to pull out of this for discussion is not Solange and her family in particular. The lady was mad as hell about something and Jay Z (in this instance) did the right thing in not rising to her steaming funk physically. I also think Beyonce did the right thing, (unlike some voices I’ve heard) by not adding fuel to the fire and picking sides. Because of that they classily avoided tumbling out of the elevator, dresses ripped, shirts undone, weave on the floor, earrings missing, Jay Z’s jacket on backwards, lipstick smudged, hollerin’ like drunks thrown out of a bar before closing time. And lets not forget Brother Bodyguard, who efficiently handled his business.
I have always had a thing about that saying: ‘gentlemen should not hit ladies’. This stands to reason. But what if they are not behaving like ladies? Why do some women think it is okay to lay a hand on men…and expect no spare change?
Now, I know we all lose it sometimes. But some women make a habit of it and then hide under the ‘men should not hit women’ banner.
LADIES. Be honest. Have you ever swung at a man? And if so, do you think it is okay if he swings back? What do you tell your sons to do in this situation?
MEN. Be honest. Do you allow women to take a swing at you and stick to the men shouldn’t hit women rule? Or how do you handle it?
ALL: Much mirth has been made of this event (some very funny!) But if Jay Z had swung at Solange all hell would have broken lose. – So why the double standard?