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I am the enthused editor of the lifestyle, culture and interiors magazine The Home Style Directory. This journal is a smorgasbord of things that fascinate my tiny brain! I was enlightened about the sexiness of wp by Michael a fellow staff member. So now I come to conquer!!…Or indeed play conkers, whichever is most viable.

In our unfailing support of entrepreneurs and creative souls, ALL our various Communities thrive on soulful interaction, but as the numbers become stacked against me here at The Journal, apologies if I haven’t been able to reply at first *hallo.* I’m stubborn. I usually get there!

I’m a stickler. I usually get there!
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Cuteness Overload! – Meerkats Find Human Lookout Post

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U.K.-based photographer Will Burrard-Lucas was used as a convenient lookout post for a family of meerkats he was shooting in the Makgadikgadi region of Botswana, Africa. He spent six days capturing the day to day of the little family which saw the meerkats lose any inhibitons or fear around the photographer pretty quickly.

Whilst the little ones played with the photographer the parents used Will to scan for any potential danger.

Will Burrard-Lucas is a professional wildlife photographer who specializes in photographing the wildlife in Africa. He is well known for using innovative technology to capture wildlife photos. He’s the creator of the BeetleCam, a remote control buggy for DSLR cameras. He is a founder of Camtraptions Ltd.

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This Lady Thinks Women Should Be Submissive To Their Men. Agree?

drkimesThis Dr Heavenly Kimes. She appears on a show called ‘Married To Medicine’ and she has strong ideas of what makes a good marriage. Here are her top 10 matrimonial tips:

 

1.  Have a hot meal ready for your man when he gets home from work. Let’s face it, I’m a busy woman, and I don’t always have time to cook. But if I don’t think I’ll have the time that night, I’ll have my cook prepare something, or I will pick something up.

2. Don’t be a prude in the bedroom. Of course, I am not encouraging you to go out and have a threesome, BUT keep an open mind to the new things that your husband wants to try. Don’t be so quick to say “no.” Take pleasure in pleasing your man. And please try not to ever go to sleep angry.

3. Don’t be a nag. You don’t always have to have response. As women, we like to give our opinions, often times, unwarranted. It’s OK to not have a comment. Pick and choose your battles if it’s not that important…let it go!  Your husband does not want to hear your opinion 24/7, especially when using a loud, high-pitched tone (that some of us like to use).

4. Show him your appreciation. You can catch more bees with honey than you can with vinegar. Be kind, and polite to your husband, and he will reciprocate. Show him that you are thankful for all that he does. Make your words soft and sweet. You won’t be disappointed with the results you’ll get.

5. Follow his lead. You married your husband for a reason, right? Hopefully you trust him enough to make the important decisions in your household. Again, don’t go with things that are immoral, or wrong, but definitely always remember to make him feel like he wears the pants.

6. Your career does NOT come first. I have a super busy schedule, especially now that I am a cast member on Bravo’s “Married to Medicine.” However, when I get home from work, I turn my phone off. I am there to get my kids off the bus. Family time is very important to me. I cherish those moments.

7. Look sexy for him. It is so important to look good for your man. Know what your man likes, and what he thinks is attractive. I realized recently that this is MOST important! Try to keep yourself in shape and put together.

8. Let him know it’s OK for him to be stressed. Because he is the man and is expected to take on a lot of things and it can sometimes get stressful for him. Men aren’t always good at expressing themselves when they are stressed or depressed. Let him know that it’s OK to feel that way, and make yourself emotionally available.

9. Marry someone you genuinely admire and find east to respect. When you admire the man you chose to marry, it doesn’t feel like a chore when you’re accommodating him. It will be something you want to do. You’ll want to give him the respect he deserves.

10. Get a support system. Surround yourself with people who are like you, or people who support your lifestyle. There is nothing worse than a friend who doesn’t agree with your lifestyle trying to give you advice. There is nothing wrong with being a submissive wife, and your closest friends should be people who aren’t judging you for it!

 

Question:

I’m really inquisitive on this one. What’s the general consensus? What say you?
Are we saying ‘Get a life sister?’ Or ‘Amen sister?’

An Amazing Look Back At Our History

01-Woman-With-A-Gas-Resistant-Pram-England-1938A woman pushes a gas resistant baby carriage back in the good o’days! Circa 1930.

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People take pictures by the Statue Of Liberty as it was being assembled. – How very Twitter!

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Little ducks being used as therapy for sick children.

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This is Annette Kellerman. She was promoting a woman’s right to wear a one piece bathing costume in 1907. She was later arrested for indecency. – Sort of like the Miley Cyrus of her generation.

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This one is a doozy! These baby cages were made so that baby could get enough sunlight and fresh air…um...*rendered speechless.*

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This was the original Ronald McDonald…Terrifying!

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Early artificial legs circa 1890.

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This little Austrian boy is thrilled to get a new pair of shoes during WWII. So incredibly happy with such a simple gift, much like the kids today …oh, wait.

Blondie

I ain't beaten yet wop logo 3Hey y’all! In my career I’ve met a lot of achievers, both famous and not so famous and I loved collecting their stories. One thing they all had in common was an absolute blind refusal to give up when the load became too heavy.
The ability to pick oneself off the ground…(yet again!) and dust off the seat of our pants is in all of us. If you are experiencing tough times this little series of stories is for you. For some folk, who seem to have been handed it all on a plate, their stories will surprise you!

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WHO? : Blondie

IS? : A band

SAID? : ‘Music is wonderful’

Blondie’s story drew me to it not because it was one of those knock you off your feet type stories, but maybe because it isn’t. But it demonstrates something I talk about an awful lot. That is to never underestimate the role of luck and how to simply tread water with purpose whilst you are waiting for your break! Blondie became the most successful female headed band ever. In their heady career they clocked up seven no.1 singles and sold 30 million  albums.

 

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Blondie’s birthplace was a grimy, acrid, smelly club called CBGB’s in New York City. This club was a haven for the burgeoning punk scene and brought forth some of the biggest names in punk music, such as Talking Heads and The Ramones.

Unappreciated

It was a wonderful place for young bands to rehearse their new songs and hone in on their instruments in front of a live audience. The trouble being that the audience although live were snootily unappreciative. The audience was made up of other bands who all thought that they were the coolest and the best and therefore a band could put on the performance of their lives and finish on a thrilling crescendo to the sound of an impatient cough and whistling tumbleweed.

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Oh No! Not A Woman!

When Debbie Harry and her band Blondie played there she broke the cool rule by being a female and being beautiful. Because of this the band were looked down on and never taken seriously. The guys were mesmerized, the intellectuals feigned disinterest and the women hated her! One such woman was singer Patti Smith.

 

Patti Smith

As an ‘interesting’ geeky type, Patti Smith was also the exception to the female rule, but she was not Debbie Harry. People loved her for a different reason, she was the queen of the nerds and she saw no reason to share her kingdom with the stunning upstart. Debbie Harry reportedly was told in no uncertain terms that there was no room for both of them. She was informed that she could not sing and she had no talent and should leave.

Out In The Cold

As a result Blondie was practically blacklisted and could not get any more performance time at CBGB’s. They moved down the street and rented a cheap loft which was cold, damp and smelly, but was roomy enough to enable them to rehearse and that was the main thing.
It was probably at this time that Providence raised her head and noticed this band that had not given up despite having nowhere to rehearse. Blondie’s rise can be charted from this period.

Hello Providence!

Chris Stein, guitarist and Debbie Harry’s boyfriend at the time, decided that the dank, smelly loft would be a good place to take pictures of his exquisite, edgy girlfriend. When he sent the pictures to a magazine she was made Punk Playmate of the Month and this garnered enough attention to get them a record deal.blondie 5

Providence had not finished…

They made a single – and in those days you had an A side and a B side to a 45 inch vinyl record. The A side was called ‘Ex Offender’ however, in Australia a DJ played the wrong side which was called ‘In The Flesh’ and the record shot to no.1 This meant that the band de camped to Australia to promote their surprise hit which gave them a gold record and their first major tour.

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The exposure brought them to the attention of Iggy Pop who invited them to tour with him and David Bowie. The band having already experienced their first tour were ready and could play well together and had formed their ‘sound’. The exposure led to Chrysalis records snapping them up in the UK where fans went crazy for Debbie Harry whose beauty did not deter girl fans, rather made them want to be her and she was easily the pin up girl for most young men at that time. They had their first hit ‘Denis Denis’ in the UK and this culminated full circle in their first no.1 back home in the US, ‘Heart of Glass.’ They arrived home to New York victorious, via Australia!

Grrr! Why YOU ain’t beat yet!

You are not beaten because it is important to appreciate the role that luck or God or prayer or that intangible spiritual ‘thing’ plays in any success.

Whatever your endeavour, let providence do it’s work for you. Let it!

The bit you have to do is be prepared, do everything you are capable of doing. Don’t get caught with your pants down! Dot the i’s, cross the t’s and do the spellcheck! Get everything ready, watch out for every opportunity – especially when, as was the case with Blondie, opportunity comes dressed as a knock back and then embrace all chances and let providence do it’s job.

The Difference Between Men And Women…Very, Very, True!

couplegfLet’s say a guy named Fred is attracted to a woman named Martha. He asks her out to a movie; she accepts; they have a pretty good time. A few nights later he asks her out to dinner, and again they enjoy themselves. They continue to see each other regularly, and after a while neither one of them is seeing anybody else.

And then, one evening…

when they’re driving home, a thought occurs to Martha, and, without really thinking, she says it aloud: “Do you realize that, as of tonight, we’ve been seeing each other for exactly six months?”

And then, there is silence in the car.To Martha, it seems like a very loud silence. She thinks to herself: I wonder if it bothers him that I said that. Maybe he’s been feeling confined by our relationship; maybe he thinks I’m trying to push him into some kind of obligation that he doesn’t want, or isn’t sure of.

And Fred is thinking: Gosh. Six months.

And Martha is thinking: But, hey, I’m not so sure I want this kind of relationship either. Sometimes I wish I had a little more space, so I’d have time to think about whether I really want us to keep going the way we are, moving steadily towards, I mean, where are we going? Are we just going to keep seeing each other at this level of intimacy? Are we heading toward marriage? Toward children? Toward a lifetime together? Am I ready for that level of commitment? Do I really even know this person?

And Fred is thinking: …so that means it was…let’s see…February when we started going out, which was right after I had the car at the dealer’s, which means…lemme check the odometer…Whoa! I am way overdue for an oil change here.

And Martha is thinking: He’s upset. I can see it on his face. Maybe I’m reading this completely wrong. Maybe he wants more from our relationship, more intimacy, more commitment; maybe he has sensed – even before I sensed it – that I was feeling some reservations. Yes, I bet that’s it. That’s why he’s so reluctant to say anything about his own feelings. He’s afraid of being rejected.

And Fred is thinking: And I’m gonna have them look at the transmission again. I don’t care what those morons say, it’s still not shifting right. And they better not try to blame it on the cold weather this time. What cold weather? It’s 87 degrees out, and this thing is shifting like a garbage truck, and I paid those incompetent thieves $600.

And Martha is thinking: He’s angry. And I don’t blame him. I’d be angry, too. I feel so guilty, putting him through this, but I can’t help the way I feel. I’m just not sure.

And Fred is thinking: They’ll probably say it’s only a 90-day warranty…scumballs.

And Martha is thinking: Maybe I’m just too idealistic, waiting for a knight to come riding up on his white horse, when I’m sitting right next to a perfectly good person, a person I enjoy being with, a person I truly do care about, a person who seems to truly care about me. A person who is in pain because of my self-centered, schoolgirl romantic fantasy.

And Fred is thinking: Warranty? They want a warranty? I’ll give them a warranty. I’ll take their warranty and stick it right up their…

“Fred,” Martha says aloud.

What?” says Fred, startled.

“Please don’t torture yourself like this,” she says, her eyes beginning to brim with tears. “Maybe I should never have…oh dear, I feel so…”(She breaks down, sobbing.)

“What?” says Fred.

“I’m such a fool,” Martha sobs. “I mean, I know there’s no knight. I really know that. It’s silly. There’s no knight, and there’s no horse.”

“There’s no horse?” says Fred.

“You think I’m a fool, don’t you?” Martha says.

“No!” says Fred, glad to finally know the correct answer.

“It’s just that…it’s that I…I need some time,” Martha says.

(There is a 15-second pause while Fred, thinking as fast as he can, tries to come up with a safe response. Finally he comes up with one that he thinks might work.)

“Yes,” he says. (Martha, deeply moved, touches his hand.)

“Oh, Fred, do you really feel that way?” she says.

“What way?” says Fred.

“That way about time,” says Martha.

“Oh,” says Fred. “Yes.” (Martha turns to face him and gazes deeply into his eyes, causing him to become very nervous about what she might say next, especially if it involves a horse. At last she speaks.)

“Thank you, Fred,” she says.

“Thank you,” says Fred.

Then he takes her home, and she lies on her bed, a conflicted, tortured soul, and weeps until dawn, whereas when Fred gets back to his place, he opens a bag of Doritos, turns on the TV, and immediately becomes deeply involved in a rerun of a college basketball game between two South Dakota junior colleges that he has never heard of. A tiny voice in the far recesses of his mind tells him that something major was going on back there in the car, but he is pretty sure there is no way he would ever understand what, and so he figures it’s better if he doesn’t think about it.

The next day Martha will call her closest friend, or perhaps two of them, and they will talk about this situation for six straight hours. In painstaking detail, they will analyze everything she said and everything he said, going over it time and time again, exploring every word, expression, and gesture for nuances of meaning, considering every possible ramification.

They will continue to discuss this subject, off and on, for weeks, maybe months, never reaching any definite conclusions, but never getting bored with it either.

Meanwhile, Fred, while playing racquetball one day with a mutual friend of his and Martha’s, will pause just before serving, frown, and say: “Norm, did Martha ever own a horse?”

And that’s the difference between men and women.

 

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by Dave Barry

From his ‘Complete Guide To Guys’.